Influences in my Youth

I was watching a series of Ted Talks on storytelling and a common theme, or rather a common element, is that each of the speakers have mentioned a strong influence when they were young. One woman spoke about being brought up in a chauvinistic household and being beat for not following the rules that she … Continue reading Influences in my Youth

Narcissist Survival Guide

Truth be told, I wrote, "The Narcissist Survival Guide" and in the process, a huge amount of insight and understanding descended upon me. Several friends sent me feedback about the various deficiencies, strengths and weaknesses. I was forced to investigate areas that I had never considered and quite frankly, new information surfaced. So with my … Continue reading Narcissist Survival Guide

Tyler Perry Portrays a Narcissist

Tyler Perry can take credit for his telling depiction of a narcissist in his movie, "Temptation: Confessions of a Marriage Counselor". Spoiler Alert!! What I say will give the plot away, so if you plan to watch stop reading now. It is a good movie, so you might want to watch it first. In it, … Continue reading Tyler Perry Portrays a Narcissist

Protecting Yourself from the Narcissist

Flowers, dinner and romance....nothing quite sets the tone like being pursued. Engagement, passion, abandonment. What? Is anything as lonely, isolating or unravelling, as being dropped like a hot potato? Did he actually get up and call the office right away? Is this really happening? He didn't even pull on pants. One of the hallmarks of … Continue reading Protecting Yourself from the Narcissist

Narcissism-Scenes From the Front Line — The Pants

Tomato red pants were the only thing that we could find given the parameters of our shopping trip. We were in a hurry. There were things that my mother would rather be doing. Unfortunately for her, I was not yet capable of going shopping for myself. I had been wearing the same pair of pants … Continue reading Narcissism-Scenes From the Front Line — The Pants

Narcissism-Scenes From the Front Line — The Cavity

The memory is isolated from context, age or other circumstances. The best I can do is narrow it down to a period between the ages of 9 and 15 because I moved into this particular house when I was about to turn 9 and moved out on my 15th birthday, but I digress. I had … Continue reading Narcissism-Scenes From the Front Line — The Cavity

Narcissism-Scenes From the Front Line — Biking

I saw him swerve and stop and get off of his bike. He was a little ahead of me as we were biking down the highway, the only road that we could take to get to his parent's place. Now, there is a "rails to trails" path that goes along this route that would've been … Continue reading Narcissism-Scenes From the Front Line — Biking

Narcissism–Scenes From the Front Line — The Drive

We were in a hurry. We had a lunch to attend. It wasn’t so much that time was tight as the fact that he was the one that called the shots. If he was going to get the most out of his day, doing anything for someone else was always inconvenient. We were on the … Continue reading Narcissism–Scenes From the Front Line — The Drive

Narcissism–Scenes From the Front Line — The Fax

My commute into work was unsustainable. I was driving almost 70 km (40 miles) into a large city. This particular highway would come to a complete stop if one drop of rain, or heaven forbid, a snowflake, landed on it. On more than one day it took over three hours to get into work. In addition … Continue reading Narcissism–Scenes From the Front Line — The Fax

Leaving the Narcissist

Should I stay or should I go? This is not an easy question for those of you living with a narcissist. True to their nature, these people are able to woo you the way you like it best, so it is difficult to move away. They are exceptional at knowing how to make you feel … Continue reading Leaving the Narcissist