Self-Awareness 101 — You are not your thoughts

"I think, therefore I am!" Descartes' quote was great in its time, but I think it overshadows a larger reality. Most of us spend our time fully in our brains. We remind ourselves of what we need to do, the on-going "To Do" lists. We rehash conversations, worry about our futures, count calories, rewrite the …

Moments

Our life is composed of moments. We like to dream about wonderful things like unfathomable riches, or a great vacation, getting that ring or promotion, but the truth is, we are living right now. So, how do you feel right now? It is not too much of a leap to guess that you are warm, …

Why Are You Pretending?

It is only a couple of weeks till Halloween. This time of year brings thoughts of candy, lots of scary movies on television, decorations and costumes. It can be fun to dress up as your alter ego or simply something that makes you look fantastic. While costumes can be fun, pretending to be someone that …

Post Narcissism — Searching for Normal

One of the questions that I often get on my blog is, "How do you fully recover from a narcissist?" As I am currently in the process, I'll let you know what I have tried and what has brought relief, but I am not claiming that I am all of the way out of the …

Stranger than Fiction

Stranger than Fiction" a movie I rewatched recently on Crackle because I enjoy the messages in it. The movie takes a stab at determining if self-will or destiny reigns supreme. It asks, "How do you want to live your life?" Ultimately, it examines the relationship we have with ourselves and the world around us. As …

The Importance of Respecting What You Want to Eat

I feel like lessons are being taught. For example, I made a soup out of the left over vegetables. This is something that I do. I love these soups. They are all unique, so never boring and they give me this sense of satisfaction. No food is going to waste. I have found a way …

Winning the Game of Life

There was a poster demonstration for the summer students that stayed on campus to do research this summer. While attending the session two things became obvious. First, science has moved along so far, so fast, that I am way out of date. The second thing that I noticed is that I'm on the "other side" …

Respecting Body Signals

Like Pavlov's Dog I immediately began to drool when I received the notice for the annual HK5K in my inbox yesterday. Immediately I began to plan my training schedule and start to think about how much work I would need to do and when I would have to make a commitment to doing the work. …

Forgiveness

What does it mean to forgive? It seems to have a lot of different meanings to a lot of different people. In some circles, it means that one person forgives another person. I personally was not very comfortable with this definition because it didn't feel right to me. Who was I to determine that I …

Unconscious Decisions

Going deeper and deeper into knowing and understanding myself is important to me. Who was it that said, "An unexamined life is not worth living?" To me, it is more than that. Discovering oneself can be the greatest and scariest adventure that a person can go on. I often coach people that have put up …